mrsgarfield
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« on: October 13, 2008, 04:06:05 AM » |
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when i first met him i weighed 20 lbs less than i do now. i gained all the weight when i was pregnant with our first and only baby girl. i eat alot less now but the weight stays in my midsection. i look like i am still 8 months pregnant. he really hurts me when he says that i am too fat and i need to lose weight. he is overweight and has been since i met him but i love him the way he is. i told him that it really hurts me when he says that but he says that he just wants me to live a long life. first i quit smoking a year ago to please him because he constantly told me to quit and that he wanted me to live a long time so i quit and now he says that i am too fat. i wear a 15 in pants now and i don't think that i am that fat but i do agree that i gained weight while i was pregnant. wouldn't it hurt you?
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slolo420
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« Reply #1 on: October 13, 2008, 04:36:24 AM » |
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He sounds like an ass. Do you really want to grow old with him?
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poison
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« Reply #3 on: October 13, 2008, 05:37:02 AM » |
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Don't let any man ever decide your self worth. I was married to a jerk like that when I was in my 20's and I suddenly realized he made me sick to look at. I left and never looked back.
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Tanner
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« Reply #4 on: October 13, 2008, 06:07:21 AM » |
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Tell him to look in the mirror and that you'll try to work out and lose weight if he does too. Otherwise, tell him to deal with it.
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MrsB
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« Reply #5 on: October 13, 2008, 06:37:40 AM » |
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I would tell him he has a small penis, and then show him where his suitcase is.
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TeeTee
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« Reply #6 on: October 13, 2008, 07:07:59 AM » |
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I just had a baby and I gained 60lbs total and I hate that I packed on all that weight. I haven't lost it yet but my husband doesn't complain about my weight bc he understand that I just had our baby!!! He still loves me and tell me that I am so beautiful every day. Suggest that he loose weight! He didn't carry a baby for 9 months!Were all gonna die one day any way no matter what!It will take some time for your belly to go down. Some people belly's went down fast. Mine hasn't either.Don't stress out bc of him. Take your time and loose the weight if you want to bc you want to. Not by his demands!!!
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kateblueymailcom
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« Reply #7 on: October 13, 2008, 07:38:18 AM » |
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Yeah....I think you need to explain to your guy that this is just a preview of things to come. How can you grow old happily with someone who makes you worry about every wrinkle and love handle. You need to tell him this is life and this is the way things are going to stay - get happy or get out!
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denverlmc
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« Reply #8 on: October 13, 2008, 08:08:37 AM » |
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Yeah well you can change your size easier than he can change his ignorance. You give the man too much power over your happiness. I do have to give him kudos for getting you to quit smoking, which BTW can add some pounds. If you want to lose the weight add some more exercise or make him pay for a trainer to help you do the right exercises for the areas you want to improve on.
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lesliek
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« Reply #9 on: October 13, 2008, 08:38:56 AM » |
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I hope he married you for love, not because of what the scale said. My ex had said that if the scale ever said 200 he would file for divorce. I filed, but for many reasons not related to weight. He never knew how long I was over that weight. Sometimes it is not so easy for us to lose weight, for me it was after female surgery that I gained the weight. Good luck, remind your husband love comes from the heart, not in pounds.
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FireSideWaterSide
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« Reply #10 on: October 13, 2008, 09:09:15 AM » |
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I would ask him to work out with me, since you both have weight to lose in order to be in a healthy range. Tell him that you don't want to be a healthy widow! So, he can save some of that energy that he works up to call you fat and go do some sit ups with it! You could also say "I had a baby, what's ur excuse?". But whatever you decide to tell him make sure you remember that your weight doesn't define you. You are not a fat girl. You are a loving mother, wife, daughter, friend, and more.
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xchris
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« Reply #11 on: October 13, 2008, 09:39:34 AM » |
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He is projecting his lack of control over his weight on you....
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Sassy
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« Reply #12 on: October 13, 2008, 10:09:53 AM » |
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I would be shocked if my husband talked to me that way but if he did say that, I would use those words as my motivation to lose weight. There are nicer ways to ask your spouse to stay in shape. You should want to lose weight and get healthy for yourself. You've been through child birth and now it's time to lose the weight. Lose the extra 20 lbs and shove your success in his fat face.
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soozemusic
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« Reply #13 on: October 13, 2008, 10:40:12 AM » |
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Yes, he is not very tactfull in how he tells you. You could also be suffering from and underactive thyroid gland. See your doctor.
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Lauren
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« Reply #14 on: October 13, 2008, 11:10:31 AM » |
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YES that would hurt me. Thankfully though my hubby and I are working out together so we can both live longer lives. A 15 pant is too large, depending on your height. I was almost in a size 16 and I'm 5'2" That's fat. You should lose wight though because you want too, not because he thinks you should. xo
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